The Library of Spanking Fiction: Wellred Weekly
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The Art of Discipline Spanking (cont.) With 'thud' implements such as wooden paddles and hairbrushes, the sensation created tends to be coarser, like thick nails being driven into the buttocks and the recipient is likely to feel it much more below the surface. 'Thud' implements tend to be more intense, especially when used with a lot of force. Individual strokes can be so intense that it's often difficult for the recipient to take more than a few at a time. For this reason 'thud' implements are probably better used towards the end of a session. Brushes are very traditional spanking implements. Their intensity is likely to depends on the type of material they're made of, the thickness and the weight - and of course, how they're wielded. As a general rule, the heavier and thicker the brush, the more intense and painful an implement it is. There's one particular variety of wooden brush that has a series of ridges carved into the back which can produce painful and messy blisters that can take days or even weeks to heal. However, a brush with a smooth, flat business end will get the message across just fine without doing lasting damage. A brush can be considered as a type of paddle that's short enough to be effective for over the knee spankings. If indulging in a long session, when using a brush, a stroke length that begins at just below chest level is usually sufficient to get a reaction, especially if you're delivering a stroke roughly every two seconds for several minutes. This guideline applies to just about any OTK-friendly implement you use, whether it's a brush, a short paddle, a leather strap or paddle, a wooden spoon or whatever. When it comes to spankings where the intent is to "teach a long lasting lesson," most spankers aim to stretch the spanking out as long as possible. The longer the spankee is over your lap, the more deeply he or she will go into 'sub space' - as long as the pain doesn't take them past their tolerance level. It's important to remember that a discipline spanking is about motivating a change of heart and behavior and not about inflicting pain just for the sake of it or for revenge. On an intensity scale of 1-10, it's probably best to keep the majority of swats in the 5-7 range with 9s and 10s used only for periodic emphasis and/or as a climax to the spanking. When it comes to the verbal aspect of a discipline session I like to relate the pain of the spanking to the pain, physical or emotional, that the real world consequences of the spankable action can bring. For example, if someone is being spanked for rudeness, then I may talk about how hurtful the rude behavior is. Similarly, if you're spanking someone for a traffic violation, it's good to remind them about how their driving habits put the safety of themselves and others at serious risk during those pauses between volleys of swats. It may be desirable to emphasize how hurtful the behavior was while reinforcing the idea that the person you're spanking is actually a good person who knows better and can and absolutely should be better. In this way it's the behavior that is being criticized not the actual person. While a discipline spanking can include a certain amount of embarrassment, it should not be a humiliating or belittling experience. It should be about bringing the recipient to an emotional place where they can experience really honest and deep remorse for their actions, then feel like they've paid the price and earned forgiveness, beginning with themselves. A discipline spanking can be a deeply, intimately emotional and ultimately cathartic experience for the recipient. So it's desirable that one's partner's entire focus is on the spanking itself and the reason for the spanking without any distraction being present. The rituals that some people use such as counting strokes or saying "thank you" after each swat may act as a distraction that interrupts the recipient's emotional experience. Physical comfort for the spankee is also important - I like to make sure the spankee can rest their upper body on a bed, sofa or ottoman while over the knee. Having the spanker on an armless chair is one of those ideas that seems great as a fantasy, but the spankee has to support their upper body by pressing on the floor which is likely to result in a needless distraction from the spanking itself. Personally, I often use Corner Time before and during a spanking but for many people, the idea of standing in a corner or just facing a wall to think about why they're being spanked helps the recipient "stew in their own juices." When I'm acting as a disciplinarian, I will often stretch out a spanking by pausing and sending the recipient into the corner with their bare bottom on display for 10 minutes or so. It tends to feel much longer to the person being disciplined and when they go back over the knee they may already be in a deeper level of 'sub space'. This doesn't appear to work with everyone, though, and may pull them out of the scene instead. Something else worth considering prior to the actual spanking is to give your partner permission to pout, pound the mattress and do some leg kicking - in other words, to replicate the kind of body language they may have experienced as small children when crying their pain out. Recreating the body language of a crying child may make it easier for them to shift into the emotional state of a crying child. When one senses that tears are near, one can gently remind a partner that it's OK to cry and ask for the gift of their tears. A lot of adults hold back on crying so giving permission to do so often makes it easier for them to let go. In terms of knowing when to end the spanking, this can be very subjective, especially when you're just getting to know each other. Ideally, a discipline spanking ends when the recipient has shed heart-felt tears. If in any doubt it's best to err on the side of caution, especially when you're getting to know each other.When I've received a particularly satisfying spanking, a switch will flip inside of me and my body will go from writhing and squirming to being limp. After a discipline spanking ends, aftercare becomes very important. This is a process to help your partner shift back into a 'normal' state of mind, to ground themselves and to be reassured that you spanked them because you care about them and want them to be better. Some people like to make the spankee do another round of Corner Time after the final phase of their spanking ends. Personally, once a spanking has ended, I regard it as over and that it should then be replaced by tender aftercare. Aftercare can often include such things as cool water to drink, soothing lotion and hugs and cuddles. The person you just spanked is likely to be in a very fragile emotional state immediately after being spanked, so nurturing acts are key. One last thought. Spankings intended to bring about tears are like peeling the layers of an onion. If one has the time and energy, and one's partner agrees, it can be very effective to spank them several times over a 12 hour period. If the emotional connection is good, it's possible to find that each subsequent spanking that day results in deeper and more complete emotional releases. 8 comments:
sixofthebest said...
Yes, I agree with the author, Corner Time, is an important part of discipline spankings. For it brings humiliation to the naughty woman who is disiplined. Be it before or after she is corporally punished. His idea of a 12 hour period of spankings, has some merit. 22 July 2012 14:17
islandcarol said...
My, you have given us a very thorough analysis of spanking types and purposes. I am intrigued and considering new ideas for stories after enjoying your piece. Lovely! 23 July 2012 02:13
bendover said...
I agree with carol. One thing I must say, Sixofthebest keeps referring to 'women' when it comes to spanking, discipline, etc... I'm afraid corner time and the spanking itself falls on the bottoms of men, too. I love the metaphors used. The onion thing referring to tears was a hoot. You did give us a great analysis. The punishment and discipline spanking part was truly thought provoking. I kind of always thought about those two parts of spankings myself. 23 July 2012 04:50
SoCalSwitchyGuy said...
Thanks all. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment. Practical demonstrations of these techniques are available to qualified applicants in the Los Angeles area. (Subtle, aren't I?) A point of clarification about how I view Corner Time. First of all, as bendover pointed out, this guide applies equally to male and female disciplinarians and spankees. I am a switch (as if my screen name weren't a dead give away). The ideas expressed represent my experiences on both sides of the hairbrush. Also, while embarrassment is often a factor in the spankings I give and receive, humiliation never is. For me, whether giving or receiving, a big part of what I look for in a discipline spanking is to have the recipient come out of it actually feeling nurtured, cared for and better about him/herself. I know for some people, humiliation is part of their scene. If that works for all the participants, cool. But my values are such that I will not participate in sessions where one or more parties sets out to belittle and demean. I'm pretty sure I even wrote of that in the piece. 23 July 2012 06:26
kdpierre said...
The article is comprehensive and includes a mix of traditional spanking wisdom, safety, common sense, and a good bit of personal preference. The only safety portion that confused me were the 'warning signs' to look out for since I know of no serious health concern that these things would indicate.Anyway, one of the key elements of effective disciplinary spanking is the ability of the disciplinarian to spank as they feel they should. Your feeling that a spanking should be long and eventually lead to an endorphin release is a preference and opinion you are certainly entitled to, but in no way the only view. Another very legitimate disciplinary preference is to have the spanking be hard, fast, and over BEFORE an endorphin release so that there is no sexual pleasure connection. I guess my overall impression of the article is that while the guidelines are not a bad way to conduct a disciplinary spanking, (and some are actually very good and sensible things to consider) they are not the only way, and certainly not the only safe and effective way either. Aftercare, warm-up, ritual, corner time, lecturing styles....all these things can be or need not be done or done the way you suggest while still providing an effective disciplinary session. It has been my experience that the best spankers are those who express themselves in their spanking preferences rather than following another person's method. Safety is safety, but otherwise different strokes for different folks. 30 July 2012 03:52
bearbottom0228 said...
Thanks for sharing. A very thoughtful look at the all-important disciplinary spanking. 2 December 2013 18:55
sub4444 said...
I agree this is a well-written article that includes some worthwhile cautions. Whether giving or receiving, my emphasis is always on the emotional and psychological aspects. In that respect, I have found it helpful to schedule a discipline spanking well ahead of its implementation. This affords a good opportunity for the recipient to think about why this has to happen and appreciate the effort invested by the disciplinarian in the correction. 27 December 2013 16:30
cyndiejean said...
Thank you for sharing this well written, thoughtful article. There are many emotional and psychological aspects to spanking, and can be very cathartic and helpful in both reducing stress as well as correcting bad habits and/or negative behaviors. The ritual, position, implements (if any) etc. should all be agreed upon beforehand by the mutually consenting adults. In my opinion, ladies appreciate someone who cares enough to take the time to help them overcome bad habits and eliminate stress. 8 January 2014 01:44
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