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Wellred Weekly
Volume 1, Number 10 : August 28, 2012
 
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Thoughts of a German Spankophile
by crumbmouse

Why is the spanking world so different?

I should say up front that it's not my intention to upset anyone with what I have written, this is merely my personal opinion in regards to my lifestyle preferences and as such is entirely subjective.

The very first time I entered the English word "spanking" into the Google search engine it felt like I was committing a crime, being unaware at the time that there were others that shared the same kink. I came across a lot of web sites and people - real people and fake people.

Perhaps I should explain that although I am German I still find it strange to talk about spanking in the German language - try as hard as I might I just can't do it. I also can't read a story that contains kinky, or even sexual material, in my own native language and I really don't like to hear others talking about it either. I know this will seem strange but I also know for a fact that I am not the only one that feels like this.

It might make you smile to hear that most of my knowledge of the English language has been acquired because I am a spanko. I remember reading my first spanking story which was Carolyn Faulkner's Embraced about five times while I held a dictionary in my other hand in order to look up just about every other word. Now, when I read that story today I am able to understand it all - that's a big improvement isn't it!

So rather than explore German spanking sites I tend to spend my time participating within the English-speaking spanking scene. From what I've written you might be inclined to think that we don't have our own spanking scene in Germany. We do, of course, but it just doesn't reflect my own personal kink - I consider myself to be simply a spanko and have no interest in BDSM which seems to be primarily what the German spanking scene caters for. I don't like dressing in leather outfits, wearing nipple clamps, hand-cuffs, blindfolds or gags and neither do I want to play 'hot sex games'.

Some may consider my choices to be boring but my preferences are for the strong alpha male who drags me over his knee and doesn't permit me to get away with my stubborn ways. However, if he was to refer to my bottom as an 'arse' or tell me how sexy it looks then my inclination would be to get up and leave. That's not to say that my spanking needs do not have a sexual basis, it's merely that I have a preference as to how the whole experience should be wrapped up. And, although I like to tease about spanking and to chat with like-minded people I prefer that sexual matters stay in the bedroom with my partner.

So... back to my first ever Google search for 'spanking'. Having got my page of results I dared to click on a few links for German spanking sites. I even dared to read some of the forums I came across but I just couldn't find what I was looking for. I felt uncomfortable reading about bondage and blindfolds and most of all I just wasn't ready to read about erotic experiences in German. It seemed impossible to find a German site which featured just discussion about spanking and spanking fiction and I had the feeling I was the only female 'bottom' around that had absolutely no interest in switching.

What then is the basis for this difference? In brief, Germany is basically a country where submissive women are not considered to be politically correct. If you are a woman you have to make sure not to let yourself be dominated by a man, unless of course it's purely a sexual encounter. On the other hand, if you're a man and like to be beaten by a woman dressed in leather and knee-high boots that is perfectly acceptable for some reason.

Of course, this is purely my own subjective experience of things. The German spanking forums do have some submissive women such as myself - I've made no attempt to count them but I'm fairly certain we are in the minority. Not only that but my few attempts at explaining why I like to be spanked, and for whatever reason, were not appreciated. The basic response was to tell me that what I was doing was wrong and that I wasn't a real BDSMer... but hang on, I never claimed to be one!

My reaction to being told on German spanking forums that I had no idea what I was talking about because I had never switched was simply to leave the site. I readily grew tired of explaining to people that I was not into male bottoms, that I didn't want to look at them, that I didn't want to see a man being spanked and that I most certainly didn't want to spank one. Whatever floats your boat is fine by me but I personally don't want to be pushed into participating in something I don't like. Of course, not everyone was like that but I log into spanking sites in my spare time in order to have some fun, engage in some light banter and exchange experiences without being judged. On the German spanking sites I participated on I always had the impression I was being judged and needing to defend myself when I expressed my opinion.

It seems that in general Germany has a very open society which in itself is no bad thing but for myself as a spanko they are too open and celebrate their kink in dark leather and latex. An event, such as the good old London Mink at Warren Street, where people participate dressed just in normal everyday clothing is non-existent here in Berlin which I think is a shame.

I will never forget a report that I saw on televisions after 50 Shades of Grey was published in German. One man said that the book was a slap in the face of German feminism which made me laugh out loud. Another statement reported that gang-bang and rape role-play were considered normal sexual activities but the consensual thrashing of a woman with a leather belt by a man was abusive and wrong. So, am I expected to feel bad because I adore being beaten with a leather belt on my bare bottom by my partner/friend/husband until I bruise? The reality is that instead of feeling abused I feel very much loved and cherished.

In the end, I associate with my friends abroad such as the British and Americans as I feel much more comfortable being around them and I can be just who I am, like just what I like and don't have to feel inferior for being just a spanko. I've found a much greater variety in the English-speaking spanking scene and the people allow you to be just what you want to be.

I should add as an end-note that I do also have a small number of German spanko friends whose mindsets and preferences in relation to spanking are very similar to my own - well almost - and no doubt there will be small groups with a similar interest that I have overlooked or been unaware of.



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