The Library of Spanking Fiction: Wellred Weekly
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Why Tops Need To Spank Speaking personally, I need to spank a girl because I crave the feeling of a bare bottom beneath my palm. I love seeing her naked behind, and I am thrilled to be able to take her across my lap whenever I want to, or at least whenever it is convenient, and slap her bum until it turns pink, and then perhaps a bit longer than that. Part of this love of spanking is derived from pure, masculine-based genetic coding, the desire for control over another human, of a woman in particular. A male's hereditary need for dominance comes into play, the need to take command of his immediate environment, and of course part of that dominance requirement is sexual in character. Sexuality enters into the equation naturally, since this interaction involves a male/female dyad. Then too, since almost invariably I pull down a girl's panties, the sexual component cannot help but figure prominently in the proceedings. The fact that I assume this power over her with her full consent, and not by force or conquest, is neither here nor there. She willingly cedes her power to me, even though she might, in any given situation, express her most heartfelt objections to my spanking her. In some cases this is for show, a theatre of the real, but in other cases she really does not, in that instance, want me to spank her. I spank her anyway, because that is what I do, that is what is necessary in our relationship. But I still must demonstrate my strength of mind in overcoming her objections, and I relish the feeling of my own abilities when wielding the authority she has granted me. I deeply appreciate the gratification I receive when I exert control in order to sort the girl out and give her what she needs, which is release from responsibility, and from guilt, and perhaps simply from the loneliness of the human condition. But no Top ever starts out with such a lavish mental construct, or in fact any idea that this complex psychological power-exchange model even exists. Certainly I did not. All I knew when I began to think about spanking was that I very much liked the idea of holding a girl tight over my lap, pulling down her panties, and smacking her bare behind. I would venture to guess that the majority of Tops started very early in life, by puberty at the latest and that many were no doubt hardwired at birth to be focused on, if not obsessed with, spanking girls, not only as a means to an end but as an end in itself. Certainly we say that we have to spank her in order to correct her behavior, punish her misdeeds, pay her out for using a favorite paddle as kindling, or what-have-you, and all these are laudable motives for bending and spanking a girl. However, spanking a girl in order to modify her behavior is an iffy proposition at best, so obviously we have other intentions. Typically, spanking and sexuality are closely related in a Top's mind, although the spanking itself may be a form of sexual activity. Certainly the two endeavors have a great deal in common. A male and a female participate, and there is a certain amount of nudity involved, along with close personal contact, accompanied by quite a lot of wriggling and writhing. Also, the man does most of the pumping, only with his arm rather than his loins, and of course spanking can in fact lead to sex, a thought that occurs early and often to Tops, and does not dissipate in the least as we get more intensely involved. Although I cannot speak for anyone but myself, I have to think that many of my brethren in spirit pulled down a girl's panties for the first time, or even the first few times, in their lives, not for true sexual access, but in order to spank the girl. Certainly that was so in my case. It seemed probable, to my hormone-besotted teenaged mind, that a girl would less likely object to being de-pantsed for a friendly spanking than for anything more overtly sexual, and I craved seeing and touching a girl’s bottom more than anything on earth. As it turned out, girls at the high school I attended were not necessarily averse to having their panties pulled down for any number of reasons, but be that as it may, I did first see and touch a grownup girl's bare bottom when I spanked her. I repeated the pattern several times, and almost invariably this bottom baring and spanking resulted eventually in other intimate forms of recreation with the girls, though at first not in actual intercourse. So one reason that a Top needs to spank girls is that the act is a simple and powerful reminder of where he came from, and of the long, and winding, and mostly delightful road that got him from there to here. When I spank a girl, I see not only myself as I am now, but as the fervent 15-year-old I was, about to pull his girlfriend's knickers down for the first of many bare bottom spankings. I feel his excitement, his wide-eyed enthusiasm, the way his fingers tremble to the cosmic shockwave that his rapid-fire heartbeat pounds through his entire being. I still wonder how I managed to get Annie's panties down that first time without my head exploding with happiness. Spanking a girl makes me happy, happier than just about anything else, even sex. So again, not that spanking is better than sex necessarily, but Tops spank girls because it is every bit as exciting as sex to us, lasts a heck of a lot longer, and after the last spank lands, I don't usually roll over and fall asleep. Spanking is in fact invigorating. But a spanking episode that goes on for hours, which is in fact several spanking episodes one after the other, can be every bit as cardiovascular as an hour in the gym, only without the more unattractive aspects of gym workouts, such as profuse sweating, grunting, harsh breathing, and so on. And not only is the rapid arm movement I employ to spank a girl good for my heart, but when I scold her, or argue, or banter, as the case may be, I am exercising my mind as well, and my brain is alive with endorphins and additional oxygen provided by the extra blood that my increased heart rate provides, courtesy of my arm's rapid movements toward her shiny little bottom. That is why a Top needs to spank a girl. She requires his strength, and has let him know it, and has given him the job of seeing that her requirements are met. And a Top is always diligent in delivering what a girl requires, even if this means that her bottom turns red and sore in the process. He requires the satisfaction of seeing her bottom turn color, of feeling her squirm and writhe under his arm, of hearing her plaintive whimpers while he spanks and scolds, because this craving is instinctive. He was born with an itchy palm, and only spanking a girl can assuage that itch. But that itch goes even deeper, into his deepest interpersonal and sexual needs. Spanking is erotic, stimulating, inspiring. It brings out his best efforts in thought and deed. He loves better, writes better, thinks and speaks more clearly and to the purpose when spanking is involved. A bare bottom upturned for spanking is the holy grail, bestowing health and rejuvenation, revitalizing his body and soul, and bringing him into harmony with the owner of that bottom, and with himself, the universe, and everything.  6 comments:
mindyh said...
An interesting peek into a Top's mind. Great work, Dev! 29 August 2012 11:07
PinkAngel said...
A great insight into the mind of a Top/spanker's thoughts and feelings, thank you. 29 August 2012 14:06
bendover said...
I don't know about 'why tops need to spank' here. They don't need to, they just do as does Dev. However, in the second paragraph I see visions of Renee Rose's - Consent and Non-Consent article here. Is it a matter of time before the top is brought up on charges? No means no. Yet it's done anyway. Parts of your article seem to contradict themselves. To me it sounds a little bit too egotistical. In today's world with women, one has to be more careful with what one says and does, especially when it comes to unveiling a woman's backside who doesn't want it on display at the time. It's not all about the top, it's about both parties. This just tells me it's all one sided. Sorry Dev, I don't mean any disrespect, but I can't agree with everything everyone says or writes. I do agree though that it truly is an insight into the mind of a Top. 30 August 2012 01:14
tiptopper said...
Bendover, I think that you are missing an impotant point in your criticism. Devlin specifies that what is happening is "in our relationship." In other words, he and the woman have already agreed to the boundaries, he's not spanking random non-consenting females. There is one point where I would disagree with him. That is where he says that spanking "lasts a heck of a lot longer than sex." Some of us can last a looooooonnng time. 3 September 2012 03:15
KJM said...
Being a Top for a very long time, since 9 years of age, I can relate with Dev's words. I never spanked an unwilling female, so the fear of disclosure never made a factor during the spankings. And, yes, at least in my case, with very few exceptions, spanking is a foreplay leading to the most satisfying sex. I recognize that for each one of us being a Top means something different, but Dev's description strikes not far from home. 3 September 2012 04:07
bendover said...
Tiptopper, you write: Quote: In other words, he and the woman have already agreed to the boundaries, he's not spanking random non-consenting females. Unquote Now his words: Quote: but in other cases she really does not, in that instance, want me to spank her. I spank her anyway, because that is what I do, that is what is necessary in our relationship. Unquote So you see, he certainly is spanking in a non-consensual term in this case. It's basically a technicality, that's all. What I'm saying is that one has to be careful with "I Do It Anyway." I may be argumentative, but it's my opinion, that's all. No one wants to end up in court for disrobing a woman, especially if she's already PO'd at that person already. LOL In my line of thinking he's talking about 'women' and not 'a woman in particular.' 3 September 2012 17:12
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