There is a lot of information in this article for those who are new to spanking. I think perhaps this should be compulsory reading for anyone who thinks they are a spanko or for them to show their partner. Well written and thank you!

This is a highly informative, wise and encouraging introduction to erotic spanking play, written with helpful clarity - thank you! You debunk the common myths and give great reassurance to anyone at whatever stage they may be in exploring their spanking desires. I particularly valued the passage about the 'silliness' of it (something that I've found has inhibited me).

Pandora you have hit a number of points that I think can either make or break a spanking relationship. Without that talking you write about, any relationship will soon fall about, but talking seems to be one thing most people shy away from. You write about how to start by doing a number of points. Every one should consider which of those points they may want to start off with, or introduce their partner to, when getting started.

I also agree many people think of spanking as BDSM, and I guess if one takes it to an extreme one would have to agree, however I find a large difference between someone who is into spanking the butt compared to many who use all sorts of minor torture to satisfy their kink.

Thanks Pandora for the hard work in putting this article together, I appreciate it.

A great article, Pandora. I don't agree with one thing though:

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it's not unhealthy, it's not linked to past abuse or trauma, and doesn't mean you're mentally unwell.
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My reason for disagreeing is that spanking can be very unhealthy for someone who has no idea what they're doing. This is especially true while using a cane or a strap of some kind.

Many spankos get their spanking interest from past experiences with family discipline, and usually at an early age. Some of these young people become violent later on in life because of abuse. These same people are 'mentally unwell.' These are the folks one has to watch out for.

As for all of us in the LSF, none of us are insane. None of us are looking out to find someone to hurt because of our own past lives. We're spanko's. We enjoy the erotic pain and enjoy giving erotic pain. There are just some people out there that one has to watch out for, and they got that way from some incident in the past.

Talking about spanking to a friend or lover can be a very sticky subject as described by Fiona Blue in her article. However, the way your article sends the message on how to go about it is very logical and safe sounding. I have confessed this to a few people, and people have fessed up to it with me.

These are just my opinions of course, because your whole article was well worth the time to read and, as CS says, thanks for putting it together and sharing.

Pandora thank you very much for your article. I agree with it 100%. I have been a spanko for many years and all your advice is great for people new to this wonderful activity. After 10 years of marriage the introduction of spanking into our marriage revitilised our marriage immensely. Another point could be made that there are BDSM Support groups which are very helpful for people new to this activity particularly if they may think of themselves as strange to like spanking. You get to meet likeminded people. For us near Wellington, New Zealand TES (The Endorphin Society) has been a great support group for us. There are BDSM Support groups all over the world.

Interesting article. I like especially that you are mentioning that somebody can feel foolish or silly by practising TTWD. It is, isn't it?

Thanks for your very interesting and thoughtful article, Pandora.

A lot of good information.

Thanks for a very informative article. I have been reading articles on OTK

So well-written. I wish that I had this to read years ago... I, too, fantasized as a child. Thank you for giving us permission to laugh at ourselves and to try new things.

What an informative article! I remember thinking I was all alone in my feelings about spanking until I typed spanking into a search engine for the first time. What a wonderful discovery to know that there are millions out there just like me.

Great advice from the Queen of Spanking Dreams.

This was a very good article. Pandora, I know you speak from experience since you have been involved with spanking for quite some time.
RE "How to get started": That's pretty much what I and my late wife did and it worked even better than expected. She quickly loved it.
Role play and dressing up were also frequent for us.
Although we did try several implements, I've always found the bare hand the most intimate, personal and evocative.

Thank you for a thoughtful article Pandora. I was always interested in spanking (but not BDSM) but suppressed it for years because I was frankly embarrassed by it and thought I was weird. It was only several years ago when I discovered sites on the internet that I began to chat and meet people with the same interest. All those years wasted, but better late than never.

"Am I abnormal?"

I find people fear words, and fear being put into a 'pigeon hole.'
'Abnormal' is defined as "deviating from what is normal or usual, typically in a way that is undesirable or worrying."
Even then "deviating" and "undesirable" cause panic. Yet those are merely defined as,
"depart from an established course." and,
"not wanted or desirable because harmful, objectionable, or unpleasant."

Unless there has been an immense upsurge in spankings as a kink, to well over 50% of the population, then no, erotic spankings are not "normal" and thereby classify as "abnormal." I can accept that, although not when considering trying to find a suitable play partner.

An interesting article, regardless.

Miss Blake is indeed a pleasure to know and session with. One of maybe the best lady to have a session with.