The Library of Spanking Fiction: Wellred Weekly
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Going Too Far? Like any good Guardian-reading liberal I flatter myself I'm a tolerant person. Each to their own, different strokes, yada, yada... But of late aspects of our spanking kink increasingly trouble me. Take a trip to wordpress, blogspot or tumblr and check out the many spanko/spankee sites. Were there always as many 'daddy/daughter' themed blogs? Peruse Amazon - other online booksellers are available- and spanked brats & princesses are becoming an increasingly popular, albeit clearly marked 'adults only', fictional trope. OK, so many aspects of spanking don't and never will do it for me; any BDSM other than light bondage or domestic discipline for example, but I accept this floats the boats of many folks. Not that they ask for my forbearance or require my approval. In my home consensual spanking is essentially a prelude to sex, an excuse to dress up and play - a preference I know wouldn't work at all many for many people with whom I share no more CP common ground than a love of smacked female bottoms. Without understanding (or caring) why - the psychological aspect is someone's else's problem, and welcome to it - it's demonstrably clear some people enjoy enacting 'uncle/baby girl' scenarios - in some cases featuring grown women in nappies. Such consensual activities undertaken behind their own front door are nobody's business but the participants. Were it not for my stumbling across them on the web I'd probably be blissfully unaware of such spanking hinterlands. However when such activities are posted online, presumably because those involved wish to share. I believe the dynamic changes. For all that the (execrably written) '50 Shades...' may have bought spanking into the sexual mainstream it's still liable to widespread vanilla misunderstanding, the most common mistake being to conflate it with BDSM, the second with, usually M/F, physical abuse. Fortunately most grown-ups these days are sufficiently broadminded and mature to comprehend an OTK woman dressed as a secretary or adult schoolgirl is simply indulging a little mild fetish fun, not embracing or endorsing such patriarchal activities in the schoolroom or workplace. However, such power exchanges become blurred on HOH or domestic discipline blogs. To many politically literate women beyond the spanking fraternity the concept of their peers freely adopting such submissive roles is incomprehensible, a betrayal of generations of feminist struggle at a time when the concept of equality seems to have bypassed a depressing number of young women. But hey, surely that's what arguing for women's freedom to make informed choices was all about? So far so tolerant, but for me where the wheels really come off, is around 'age play'. Now, before readers reach for their figurative pens (or, in the case of those in the US, guns), I don't dispute the right of individuals in private to be a 'lambkin', 'princess' or 'bratty lil girl'; be a daddy, uncle, or big, bad wolf. But do so online and there's a risk of this relationship appearing distinctly suspect. Consider 'daddy spanks his naughty little girl', 'daddy pulls down her PJs at bedtime,' (two verbatim quotes; doesn't sound good, does it? You don't have to have worked with abused children (although believe me it helps) to find such words, and sometimes accompanying images, unsettling. As for diapers, dummies and little girl's clothes as props, one word: Nooooooooo. Sex and infantalisation are never going to be a good match in the eyes of a wider public fed frenzied 'paedo' scares by unscrupulous tabloids. We may know (or at least hope) it's harmless fun, but those judging without the benefit of context will likely lump all spankos together under the general heading of 'pervert' and support Internet censorship. In truth I've other reservations too. My better half is very happy to enjoy her submissive sexually with me at weekends, but any suggestion of exporting play roles to real life in the form of a HoH or DD relationship and blogging about it gives us both the horrors. Part of gaining true equality means women taking equal responsibility in life, not surrendering the tough bits to blokes in order to feel secure. To reiterate, the problem is not the games people play, but how, posted on the web, they may well reinforce people's outmoded view of spankers as misogynists; and inadvertently reinforce certain misguided men's unacceptable domineering attitudes towards women. To adopt the persona of a childlike 'babygirl' on a blog risks not only opprobrium being directed indiscriminately at all spanking sites, but also provides a useful tool to those politicians and theocrats seeking censorship as part of a wider right wing political agenda to assist their repression of woman. If someone wants to play father/brat within four walls it's no one's business but their own. But once on the net it stays out there, forever; misleading people towards ill-informed value judgements based on belief, rather than reading intelligent arguments in support of spanking and empowered female sexuality from luminaries such as Pandora Blake. Of course we're all different and few of us wish to be dictated to... As Johnny Cash sang: 'Do what you want to do, live how you want to live.' But it might be prudent to exercise a little public self-censorship before draconian rules are imposed. 30 comments
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