The Library of Spanking Fiction: Wellred Weekly
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From a Cyber-Spanking to a Real One So you've met someone online who seems to be a good guy that you'd like to meet out in the real world. Good for you. But what do you really know about him? I can tell you from experience that what seems to be one thing online might turn out to be something altogether different in the real world. The internet is all about illusion. The keyboard is most definitely quicker than the eye. The internet is the only place where you can chat one-on-one in real time with someone who wouldn't know you if you sat down next to them. And there are a disturbing number of people who magically change gender when selecting an online persona. I should know; I played a female Elf Druid in Everquest. Why? Because I read an article that told me that Everquest was still very much a male-oriented game and playing a female would get you better attention (and items and help) from lonely geeky wannabe heroes. So I played one. To the hilt. And you know what? That article was right. I never had so many guys willing to give me the most outrageous help and great in-game items just for the chance to flirt with my character. God, we horny men are so pathetic. Ok, if you want to take an online buddy and turn him into a spanking partner, how do you go about it safely? I target this article primarily to women because they are the ones that face the most danger. In three online-to-RL meetings, I have never once considered that I might end up in a situation where I'd be getting raped. Why? Because I'm a guy and that's not something we are brought up to fear. I've walked down many a dark street and alley and never once feared that a strange man would drag me into the shadows and have his evil way with me. The most I've worried about is getting robbed, beaten, or killed. Fear of rape is just not something that a man (who is not facing prison) can even comprehend. But it is a fear women live with every single day and keeping that out of an online-to-RL meet is a must for those women. So how do you do your best to avoid it? First, if you haven't spoken with this guy on the phone, start doing so right away. Get his number and call him. Don't give him your number. You want to make the first contact. And you don't want to do it the moment he e-mails you the number. Tell him that someone is at the door and you'll call him once you get rid of this phantom someone. Why do this? Because you can't see a wedding ring on your side of the screen (unless you are the one wearing it.) Now maybe you two have been honest with each other and the fact that one or both of you is married has already come up. I'm not judging (I'd be the last one in a position to do that.) As long as you are entering this with eyes wide open, do whatever you want. But if you haven't talked about that or he has said that he isn't married, then place a randomly timed call. If he starts to hem and haw about maybe not being home when you call, start picturing a wedding band on his finger. Now it might very well be the truth that he has to work. If so, then tell him you'll call him sometime after work and ask him what time he gets home. Then, once you've established his work hours, make a random call some time after he's returned home. This isn't definite proof that he's single, but it's a good indicator that he might be. If you establish a phone communication relationship, you're one step closer to that spanking you so crave. Once you're reasonably comfortable talking to him over the phone, you can move along into discussing a meet. By now, you've surely exchanged photographs via e-mail. If you haven't, do so. Don't send photos of a supermodel if you weigh 200 pounds. This will create a huge shock for him in a real meet and create a large potential for some hurt feelings. And try not to send photos that are several years old. We all change over the years in some way or another. In this age of digital cameras and phones with digital cameras, there's little excuse to have a photo that is several years out of date other than laziness or shame. If whomever you are sending a recent photo to can't handle you the way you are, then this isn't the person you want to be meeting anyway. Regular and heartfelt communication through e-mails, chats, and phone conversations should have made this person more interested in who you are than what you look like anyway. Obviously it's very important to establish what each other is looking for in terms of a spanking relationship. I can tell you that there are very few men who don't want the extras (yes, I mean sex) that go along with a spanking. After having seen a bare bottom and running your hand over it, it's hard to just give a spanking and walk out the door without having, um, tasted the goods, so to speak. So if sex is not something you are willing to exchange during or after spanking play, state that right up front long before you two meet in RL. It's better to not meet than to put yourself in a situation where you are forced into doing something you don't want. Also establish exactly what you expect from a spanking and what he expects as well. It would probably be a huge shock if you are a woman who wants a playful teasing spanking and you get him wielding a hairbrush with all his might. Tell him what you want done to you and ask him about what he would like to do. There's room for a middle ground. So you've exchanged photos and had long talks over the phone. What's the next step? Well, obviously, it's time to meet in real life. If this guy lives close to you, a meeting at a local diner or coffee shop is your best bet. It's a public area and you'll be surrounded by people who will be potential witnesses to an attempted assault, so there's little fear that something will happen in this location. Watch body language when you finally meet this guy. If he keeps looking at the clock nervously or something like that, make an excuse not to take him home for play. Also check out his wedding finger. If there's a band of lighter flesh than the rest of the finger, ask him straight out how long he's been married. If he gets flustered and starts having an apoplectic fit, you'll know how lucky he's so not getting tonight. But if he passes your observations, then feel free to either set up a play date at some point in the future or just skip the wait and drive straight to your place for a good hard spanking. Now what if he lives quite a distance? It's hardly fair to have someone make a long trip only to reject him on first sight (believe me, I know.) It does happen sometimes, but hopefully you've already established a good relationship and this won't happen. But you still want to be a little safe before you give this guy access to your house and your body. If he's driving, suggest that you two meet somewhere. That way, you can explain, you can more easily lead him to your house. A diner or coffee shop works just as well for this as for the guy who lives closer to you. If he's flying in, meet him at the airport. You two can take a few minutes sipping on $25.00 coffees in the airport lounge before heading off to have some fun. I hope this is a help for those of you planning on meeting someone online. I know that in my own three experiences, I wish I'd had a roadmap for this type of thing. Fortunately for me, two of those meetings worked out quite well. I hope your own meeting lives up to all your expectations and you have a very blistered butt as a result. 11 comments
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