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I was replacing a window screen and noticed that screen spline (those thin rubbery-plastic, round, ridged strips that hold the screen in place) can be re-purposed. Cut them about 18 inches long, put 4 or 5 (or more) of them together, tie or tape at one... end, and you have a nice little flogger. Roll it up and it fits in the palm of your hand, so it's great for traveling. Or attach a handle if you want to get a better swing. Less than $5 for 25 feet of it at Home Depot.
Adult consensual spanking bears a strong similarity to dance, or other dramatic performance. Each partner has a role to play, a script (planned or extemporaneous), a set, and of course a costume. Since this marvelous post is about dressing the part, I... will focus on that.
Ours is an F/M arrangement. At the appointed time, I enter the spanking room in all black: t-shirt, slacks or jeans, black belt, black socks. Socks typically come off then belt and pants--any under wear--also black--I must remove. She has chosen my outfit and she delights in watching me take off my clothes, slowly, deliberately. I fold these items carefully, and lay them on a nearby dresser. While I disrobe, she may or may not comment on my physical attributes, my obvious nervousness, or my impending punishment, but she watches me with growing intensity. I hand her my belt, and she sets it aside to be used as she deems necessary. I retain only the black shirt, partially framing her target. I try to remove my clothing in a way that increases her pleasure but also that affirms, once again, my commitment to our arrangement, my willingness to endure pain and embarrassment, and my deep desire for her loving discipline. In making all these preparations, I have asked her to spank me, and she has chosen the time, the setting, her instruments of choice, and her attire as well as mine.
She wants to heighten my pleasure, so she has dressed for me. She has donned a dark blue skirt with red or white top, [occasionally the classic little black dress], a pearl necklace or, sometimes a gold chain coordinated with gold earrings. I might see stay-up stockings, sometimes conventional hosiery with garter belts, panties--and the super sexy Touch of Nina sandals with 3-inch spiked heels. (Once we visited a shoe store, with me buying high-heeled sandals for our spanking sessions. She soon ditched these for the Touch of Nina version, her tastes much classier than mine). She might choose tight-fitting jeans rather than a skirt--at any rate--when I hear the 3-inch heels on the hardwood floor, I know the time has come for our session.
Her feminine allure is intoxicating, over her knees I go, and I am soon held tightly between her thighs; I am not just compliant, I am in submissive freefall. She punishes my bottom in ways that are thorough and memorable, after which we embrace tightly and thankfully. We have both dressed for the part--her having emphasized feminine power, and me having emphasized a deeply compliant mindset.
OK...coming to this discussion late, but in doing so happy to join dougmorton, jsanon and nowings. Perhaps this issue is one of the best examples of "better late than never." I support Grace's overall analysis. I also agree with dougmorton that the "ad... hominems" act more to distract than elucidate. Life is rife with human complication and complexity calling more for empathy than finger pointing. Who among us can righteously cast the first stone? Worrisome, tribal allegiances and felt- grievances are reasserting their influence, further diminishing the distant hope that we can come together as nations, as people, as a human race. Let's judge folks for their actual behaviors not their affiliations. I'm a Catholic, but I'm definitively not a pedophile.
Anyway, on the matter of spanking children, jsanon and Jillian Keenon have it just right. As a spanko, I never allowed myself the possibility of including spanking in my parenting tool kit and convinced my wife (though she experienced the belt as a child) that we could be successful parents without resorting to that option. Through grace, good fortune and high expectations our children made the transition into successful adults.
Finally, I am perhaps in the minority here, but I wish I was never a spanko. Like many, my fascination was preadolescent. I don't believe my interest resulted from being spanked, which happened only once that I can recall. Spanking is too demanding of my attention and time and (since my wife is an affirmed vanilla) has interfered over decades of marriage with my ability to fully experience the richness of lovemaking. I simply would prefer not having to fantasize about spanking her or she spanking me in order to reach a satisfying climax.
Wow....that was a bit cathartic. Thanks Grace, et.al. for bringing it out.
Hi GB & I love what jsanon just wrote on 9/2 - read Jillian's book & articles & rule of thumb - note to self etc. - except for the odd frustrated pat to keep them from being hit by a car - don't spank your children - case closed. I was spanked as a child... and I have the fetish to be spanked by strong women but I do not give a damn about my spanking someone - really no interest. Many people have hitismfetish and were never spanked - go figure. Oh and guess what? It all started with my being spanked and then came sex - chicken and egg sorted out - WOW! Love the Greeks comment from GB & also the religious crap - a history of SM that makes spanking look like a skip through the park. Enjoy the fantasy & love one another - thanks GB - great work as always ....
I know the stories are supposed to be fiction. If fact, most of us have triggers from real events that we draw upon when creating a story. I had a very strict Mother that gave me a lot to write about. When I read stories on the subject, many times it... takes me back to a day when I dreaded having my name called. The reason we continue reading these stories, is, they strike a memory, or wish in our reasoning. Just my $.02 worth.
Since this article was originally posted Jillian Keenan, a brave spanko who has came out in the mainstream press, has written what seems to me the last word on this. She says that childhood spankings do not create the kink, but that the few people who... have the kink can be traumatized by a childhood spanking. That's how I see it; it's just not worth the risk to a child to expose them to what may be sexual abuse, even though it may not be sexual, or abuse, to others. And her book "Sex With Shakespeare" includes what seems to me the best explanation of why spanking a child is inherently abusive: if you saw a teacher patting a child on the butt, would that be the same, to you, as a teacher patting a child anywhere else? Case closed.